As we were discussing CJ’s diagnosis and his current condition Dr. Rice volunteered, “You’re a good mom. This is average for how kids come in here.” Those words deflated so much pressure that had built up for months as I wondered why CJ would not gain weight, even after putting him back on whole milk and bumping up his calories in any way I could think of . . . and then the last week while he was sick . . . oh, I was afraid he may die last night, even after taking him to a Quick Care facility. This place that sent us home with a couple of prescriptions to fill if his condition didn’t ‘turn-around’ in 24-48 hours. The prescriptions didn’t make any sense to treat the virus and excessive weight loss, yet the medical professional sent us out the door with little explanation and deflated hope.
The Quick Care facility didn’t run any tests, not even a blood glucose test, although I had told them he had lost at least ten pounds in the week since he’d had a virus and was not bouncing back. The lack of concern by the doctor and the push with the prescriptions kept telling my brain that I must be overreacting; yet the condition he was in was so frightening I didn’t want to go to sleep for the night. He looked so emaciated; this was my nine-year old baby.
Dr. Rice’s words were healing in terms of relieving the stress and guilt that had compiled as I tried to determine what was wrong with CJ. If you, as the parent of a juvenile diabetic, didn’t hear this from your child’s doctor, you should have and you deserve to be told. I am telling you now, “You are a good mom, or dad.” When Dr. Rice told me that CJ’s emaciated state was “average” for kids being diagnosed, I told Dr. Rice that his statement was amazing to me because “average” meant there are kids who are far worse, and I couldn’t imagine any worse except “dead”. The fact is that the weight loss occurs so fast once your child comes down with something like a virus or a bad cold. The symptoms are not obvious until this time and then their weight loss is fast. When all was said and done CJ lost about 13 pounds over one week. You too have probably gone through a similar or very scary situation ending in a Type 1 diagnosis, so just remember, the voice of reason, “You are a good mom or a good dad.”